tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post2197288886948309915..comments2024-01-01T15:38:28.710-05:00Comments on The Immortal Alcoholic: Surviving the Chaos: Til death do we part...Linda Bartee Doynehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01820717772193440848noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-19828916499987039542017-06-15T03:23:15.017-04:002017-06-15T03:23:15.017-04:00I lost my husband of 12 years (but have known him ...I lost my husband of 12 years (but have known him for 18) to alcoholism on May 26,2017 and I was searching the Web for something....I don't know what when I came across your blog. The last 2 years living with him were hell, watching him destroy himself and me living in agony of not being able to help him as well as carrying the pain of my 10 year old son of not having a dad he deserved to have. I became pretty angry and resentful towards my husband. To the point that I couldn't remember WHY I had married, or even fallen in love with him. However, as friends learned about his death, they posted pictures of us when we first started dating and our wedding day and I realized that I would not "miss the the alcohol part" of him, but I would "miss the PERSON he was without the alcohol". Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-31040803660159854542016-12-06T19:38:36.244-05:002016-12-06T19:38:36.244-05:00Wow this really hit home with me! I just lost my d...Wow this really hit home with me! I just lost my dad 10-12-16 to cirrhosis/ESLD. And I feel everything you said above. And people at the funeral said all of that to me and more crazy things, "now you can go on living your life", "now you don't have to worry about him anymore", "oh boy he was young" Like really people?! I was so angry at the time at these morons but have since calmed down. But I feel the same. I really really wish he didn't make the choices he did and that he could still be here today because I miss him and I love him. He could drive my crazy but I loved him more than anything and I still can't wrap my mind around the fact that I won't talk to him again. Thank you and I plan to read more. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11932068209076036494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-43299316136694116502016-11-28T07:26:17.716-05:002016-11-28T07:26:17.716-05:00That's a very wise and heartfelt reply to a gr...That's a very wise and heartfelt reply to a great post. I have done the loving-treacherous journey. My daughter might be preparing what to say for her fathers eulogy I will suggest she reads this blog. Meghttp://www.homecareassistance.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-43960012923020292222016-11-23T10:53:17.895-05:002016-11-23T10:53:17.895-05:00I found you a few years back. Probably while searc...I found you a few years back. Probably while searching the internet for information on the mortality rates of alcoholics. I have followed you off and on since. My father battled alcoholism. Today is his birthday, and one year ago today, we held his memorial service. When I saw this post, I knew that it was meant for me to read. At his memorial service, I read the eulogy that I had written for him. I must admit, I had spent a lot of time over the years, mentally preparing his eulogy. What came out on paper was something I had never thought to share. I used my opportunity to honor my father, but also to shine a light on the darkness of the disease itself. There were few people at his memorial, but every single person told me that they saw alcoholism from a new perspective.I just want to remind you that your voice matters. To love, and even to be loved by an alcoholic is a treacherous journey. It's always reassuring to meet a fellow traveler.Thank you for posting this today. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06050363911328409882noreply@blogger.com