tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post2502837620525417076..comments2024-01-01T15:38:28.710-05:00Comments on The Immortal Alcoholic: Surviving the Chaos: Really... no I mean... REALLY???Linda Bartee Doynehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01820717772193440848noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-77913518790338214702014-09-04T08:16:37.269-04:002014-09-04T08:16:37.269-04:00I read this this morning and it is a dejuv of my l...I read this this morning and it is a dejuv of my life. I have taken to writing everything down and have been verbally slammed while working 3 jobs to support my family. It has been mentally exhausting dealing with my alcoholic and your blog has been a great find. Just to know it is out there and what I experience is not isolated. This is a mild version of my financial life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-1347129640416143212011-12-09T18:28:34.329-05:002011-12-09T18:28:34.329-05:00You are, as you know, in a difficult spot and it&#...You are, as you know, in a difficult spot and it's hard not to take what an alcoholic says 'personally." Everything is personal.<br /><br />It's possible he saw some ad on TV, exhorting the viewer to find out what's really going on. He may feel as though, as much as you do for him, he's "lost control" of his life (and he has, by giving control to drink) and this is one small way he can feel as though he's "taking care of business."<br /><br />Alcoholics notoriously have a very small toolkit when it comes to communication. Likely he doesn't have the tools to communicate things like gratitude, feelings of helplessness, or other things with tact.<br /><br />You don't really need me to tell you you've chosen a hard row to hoe. You know it, live it, experience it every day.<br /><br />I hope you are doing things for you, to keep you healthy and sane during this difficult period in your life.godivademaushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17908534524829877558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-56248738794041859112011-01-07T07:34:35.701-05:002011-01-07T07:34:35.701-05:00I don't think that the leopard can change its ...I don't think that the leopard can change its spots overnight. It may take years and still some vestige of the alcoholic mind remains. I have seen friends 20 years sober be raging dry drunks.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-49610690986639502922010-12-29T12:03:07.426-05:002010-12-29T12:03:07.426-05:00I've been peeking at your blog for just a few ...I've been peeking at your blog for just a few months and have found it interesting. My grandfather was an alcoholic but I don't remember very much about him as he died (yes, from drink) when I was early teenage.<br /><br />Today's post struck me for another reason. My mother was a gambler - in fact, I think she probably still is, though I only keep in touch occasionally by phone as I am not involved much in her life now.<br /><br />A long time ago she tried to kill herself since the bailiffs were due at the house the next day. I came home from work to find her (I was 17) and got her to the hospital. My dad, me and my sisters sorted the finances out and my dad's workplace helped out with appropriate phone calls so that in the end we could continue to rent the house.<br /><br />I went to uni and was back home one holiday when I accidentally opened a letter addressed to my mother. It was from a bank threatening to send debt collectors around as she had apparently missed 'some payments'. What!? We all thought at the time that she'd disclosed everything that was owed. Obviously not.<br /><br />The point is that I feel sure such a mind (gambler or 'similar') never really changes. I did try to speak to her about the suicide attempt 10 years or so after the event. She said she couldn't remember it happening at all. It's funny isn't it? That day is still crystal clear to me.<br /><br />I hope you have a really good 2011, Linda!NorthernTeachernoreply@blogger.com