tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post2990433001109434990..comments2024-01-01T15:38:28.710-05:00Comments on The Immortal Alcoholic: Surviving the Chaos: End-stage definition...Linda Bartee Doynehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01820717772193440848noreply@blogger.comBlogger307125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-70901662566614296032021-11-15T03:45:42.767-05:002021-11-15T03:45:42.767-05:00I’m new to your site & am glad that I found i...I’m new to your site & am glad that I found it. I'm an occasional binge drinker. I go months drinking responsibly (2 drinks are fine) & then, I binge. I binged for a few days (orignally), a week (a few months later), lastly, 2 weeks. While consuming, I don't get drunk. I drink slowly & sleep for a few days, a week, 2 weeks. The idea is "sleep" (LEAVE PTSD - bad thoughts, abuse, threats, ZzzzZZZzzzzZZZzzzz. Sleep 2 hours, vomit, have 2 more, sleep - round the corner & get another bottle o'wine. <br /><br />The last binge = 2/wk<br /><br />I realized it had to end<br /><br />I found your site while googling "tinctures - herbal (alcohol content)" "cough syrup" or other products containing alcohol which might potentially cause a "craving". I'm glad that I did. Reading this horrible information made me stay tight behind my computer, studying. <br /><br />I've developed macrocytosis – other health “good”.<br /><br />This inspired me to stay sober... I don't want the only good thing that I have going left for me going bad - my health. I'm going to be poor & on the edge of homelessness my whole life & have no family & don't like anybody - so this helped. As an introvert - I don't socialize effectively with others unless intoxicated & I have a lot of problems with my emotions & communicating without frustration & nobody sees it “my way”. <br /><br />Thank you for posting your horror & war-stories. It made me feel bad. I could be just like "that", given a month. <br /><br />My decision to stop completely came when I left my house (I decided I was going to the ER for my first medical detox) several weeks ago for my "final drink". I walked out of my 1 room place & went around the corner (stable, not slurring, not even drunk at all - just needed to finish it off) & crossed paths with some homeless people in the parking lot. We looked the same, smelled the same. It was a moment for me. <br /><br />At the ER, I was afraid of being committed to the psych ward for suicidal ideation & spoke to the front desk, ready to check myself inThe RN asked me when I'd had my last drink - "5 minutes ago". I wasn't admitted & was given paperwork about alternative detox centers & support <br /><br />That night, I had my last small box of wine after a few miles of exercise. I couldn't get into my bed.I slept (tried to sleep) on an air-mat by my only windows. I could not SLEEP AT ALL. I chain vaped, I talked to myself, I felt sick, achy, sweaty. The next day my legs felt like jelly & kind of collapsed as I tried to go down the stairs. Luckily, I got some exercise .I tried to move around, get to my laptop, study, read a book. My movements were shaky - I was kind of vibrating all over. Still no sleep the next night at 12A... some hallucinations (ferrets coming out of the sidewalk, trees & flowers looked like they were talking, bush outside my window was "god") ... <br /><br />2AM, sleep came. <br /><br />3 week anniversary tonight. I realized I'd been abusing melatonin for sleep. Alternatively, I purchased passionflower extract in a tincture as a replacement for melatonin. Popped it in my mouth tonight & suddenly I wanted a glass of wine. Found out WHY - 45%-55% alcohol. Googled this info & well..<br /><br />Thanks for this god awful, depressing page. <br /><br />This blog is amazing. I'm sorry for those who have lost their lives to alcohol & the families who have supported them. You scared me out of a glass of wine and / or thoughts of drinking. <br /><br />Hopefully I never drink again - as I’m not chemically dependent on it (to survive) & have more on my side than others, I should be more disciplined & see that that's just around the corner from me & could easily be me in a matter of months. With nobody & nothing, it's a reality. <br /><br />Thank you for your site. I will read it again when I crave a drink. <br /><br /><br />Thanks!<br />Robin<br />Robin Pigeonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15359080664824306723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-4106358519174306782020-08-04T00:24:50.413-04:002020-08-04T00:24:50.413-04:00unfortunately the terminal stage of alcoholism can...unfortunately the terminal stage of alcoholism can come when you're 15 years old 25 years old 35 years old or in your sister's case 50 years old in the terminal stage of alcoholism is painful to watch<br />Francis McAnarneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16308450996416024489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-11389049496064954982020-08-03T20:28:06.516-04:002020-08-03T20:28:06.516-04:00Very relatable. My sister 50, has legs like twigs,...Very relatable. My sister 50, has legs like twigs, swollen belly, red face, thinks she's fooling us all. I know she is end stage, I wish I knew how much time she has..decades? Months? IGOBYLISAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09025147004224075138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-73358202117078626552019-07-04T05:31:37.168-04:002019-07-04T05:31:37.168-04:00I am glad I found this site my husband has stop fu...I am glad I found this site my husband has stop functioning can't work drink 24/7slsels smokes drinks no eating hardly any think at all won't shower. Can't walk or stand on vodca. I know it's at end stage I fell so helpless I tried everthink no think works. He won't listen to me or anyone. I cry a lot. Try hard be strong just look after him he has no one only me. Patricia. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164376969301216356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-55784703789236097852019-03-24T01:38:13.370-04:002019-03-24T01:38:13.370-04:00A man 40 +years of age having no responsibilities ...A man 40 +years of age having no responsibilities on his shoulder because both his fathetfand wife are working is into drinking . He has been to rehabs for some 4 / 5 times.when he comes out he is fine for some months and thus thingy like someone talking to him, he himself hiding things and looking for it, staying quiet starts.Are there possibilities of him improving and becoming normalbinduhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05633979444936773636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-9274954065029904452019-02-05T12:08:14.703-05:002019-02-05T12:08:14.703-05:00Hi and thank you to everyone who has posted here. ...Hi and thank you to everyone who has posted here. I am continuously looking for answers as I have been dating an addict for a little over 2 years and I didn't even know he was until 4 months in and I had already loved him He thinks he can recover on his own. He has had blackouts where he was in a fight but doesn't remember andosing his wallet He has called me and argued telling me to go F myself and he is tired if my bullshit..yet he didn't remember that conversation the next day..the pain and hurt. I had taken him in and supported him in every way imagined clothes car phone bought lots for his daughters when they would visit. He seems to have no respect <br />I ended up having to get him out of my home off my phone and car ins Anyway, he has stomach issues, sleeps all day extremely skinny sweats very easily. Very nasty if I day something he doesnt want to hear. I have been trying to detatch for the last year. The other night he sent me a text telling me that he just wanted to day hello but didnt want to be ridiculed out of the blue. I finally snapped. Told him I can not be friends with him. I hate him and never want to have anything to do with him again. I feel so broken Was this not a good thing to say to him?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07906300126278337911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-79204003647911553912019-01-13T06:52:52.031-05:002019-01-13T06:52:52.031-05:00I was married to an alcoholic for 20 years in Sept...I was married to an alcoholic for 20 years in September I asked him to leave now I'm living worse nightmare watching him drink himself to death I cant stop worrying I knoe I need to let it go but how he has no one in the world family won't talk to him it's horrible to watch any suggestions are most welcome I don't want him back the lies and deceipt have come to light since he left but how do I just let it be its harder than living the nightmare Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-44942190050354577342018-07-03T23:51:00.338-04:002018-07-03T23:51:00.338-04:00I have a sister who had a heart attack 4 years ago...I have a sister who had a heart attack 4 years ago. First year she did good but then with the onset death of my dad over 2 years of seeing him suffer. Her and the drinking since he died in 2017 has gotten disgusting. She shits and pisses her pants. She’ll vomit here and there. She is 57 and get disability. I’m frustrated as is my mom. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12190480954985853198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-34473970146925634132018-05-29T23:09:00.118-04:002018-05-29T23:09:00.118-04:00Hi after reading this i felt so much nicer that m...Hi after reading this i felt so much nicer that me not alone. I am from from mumbai india<br />My dad was alchoholic died of liver cancer and my brother took over . He drinks day night finishes moms all money, finished dads money long back.. Two years back he was diagnosed with liver cirrosis but nthg changed.. He stills drinkss day night.. Mom is very biased and wants to keep giving him money in fear of losing him or he getting worse..<br />I tried telling her to get help but she didnt encourage and is not willing to accept the stage.. IIknow it's end stage and i am really getting very depressed everyday as i cannot leave my mom. Alone and go anywhere.. And he his making everyday hell because all ppl know his state and everyone has nearly put us down as v not financially or otherwise strong. <br />Gwttingvup everyday to him. Being drunk and house a a mess to sleep in night same stateside very depressing.. First I use to cry lot talk to him but all in vain so stopped<br />No one of us is married no future<br />Scared of future.. Everyday is fearAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-89277164275264056712018-03-28T14:52:43.235-04:002018-03-28T14:52:43.235-04:00My son is 27 has two beautiful babies and he's...My son is 27 has two beautiful babies and he's given up like my baby sister did at age 37.. I can't lose but he's been in and out detox and went straight back now he's sipping on wild Irish rose just to try an stay above the feeling but now he can't hold his eyes open he's having trouble breathing an sleeping lnger since yesterday not hardly drinking now. Hasn't seen nor nothing in over two weeks. It's klling me I don't know f I can handle this. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-91781422322543095682018-03-10T13:47:05.417-05:002018-03-10T13:47:05.417-05:00I'm deeply sadden by your loss,I'm deeply sadden by your loss,Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-59823324290487373552018-03-10T13:44:18.647-05:002018-03-10T13:44:18.647-05:00I just saw this the love of my life,she's 59,h...I just saw this the love of my life,she's 59,has been down ward for over a year,now Christie heart.i don't know what to say,but,I feel your pain,we know she too is facing endstage��Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-70443351074477713902018-03-10T13:35:27.649-05:002018-03-10T13:35:27.649-05:00I just found this,my wife59afull blown acoholic,no...I just found this,my wife59afull blown acoholic,now congestive heart problems,says ,I don't care any more.im scared,my first wife died of brain cancer at 59. We an her grown kids are lost,thank you for your note.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-56545649184187098162018-02-24T15:32:39.565-05:002018-02-24T15:32:39.565-05:00My suggestion is call to call adult services in yo...My suggestion is call to call adult services in your area and maybe they can help you take power of attorney over her. Then you can place her in a rehab. place . Call a AA. Place to see if they can help or give you info. Pray ! And I will pray for you for strength!Your friend.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10652926709553989909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-30380271362624503372018-02-21T05:17:06.657-05:002018-02-21T05:17:06.657-05:00hello not sure if this post is still running ...i ...hello not sure if this post is still running ...i care for an alcoholic he has strted gettin sores on hes belly he has 2 atm ...hes been drinkin years but now only has sips all day everyday neva gets drunk x he drinks white cider ...he has cirrosis already ..hes forgetfulsumtimes knocks me up early hours thinkin uts daytime ..im really concerned ...is he in hes last days ...he is 58 ...thanku Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11085688179914299247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-40356034714327502022018-02-03T06:25:29.579-05:002018-02-03T06:25:29.579-05:00I just want to thank you for writing this blog. I...I just want to thank you for writing this blog. It has been very informative and "real". I also appreciate people taking the time to respond. I've learned a lot from their stories, as well. I am sharing this with my family and friends, so they can become better educated about the end stage. Many of use know someone who is dealing with the evils of this addiction.<br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-38342139590301284712018-01-31T12:27:31.807-05:002018-01-31T12:27:31.807-05:00This so scared me, almost all of this is me, and m...This so scared me, almost all of this is me, and my boyfriend it is terrifying for us both me more cause I had gastric bypass and have turned my food addiction to alcohol,I do get sick and it is yellow, he vomits every morning this is so scary he's 39 and I'm 45 wow, ticking hard today bought things.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-44844941644670229932018-01-20T01:43:56.258-05:002018-01-20T01:43:56.258-05:00If you continue to abuse alcohol, it can lead to a...If you continue to abuse alcohol, it can lead to alcohol dependence. Alcohol dependence is also called alcoholism. You are physically or mentally addicted to alcohol. You have a strong need, or craving, to drink. <br />Dr Hashmihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05639153323403504322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-7125518875606727312017-11-29T08:54:02.193-05:002017-11-29T08:54:02.193-05:00They are such hypocrites. You have to live with an...They are such hypocrites. You have to live with an alcoholic or visit them daily to know there lives. I was married to my best friend and father of our son. I tried to help him for 32 years. I divorced him a year ago and left him 2 years now. When he new I was leaving I found him unresponsive and called an ambulance. My son is now trying again for the 6th time and got him to go to rehab. My son is a recovering heroin addict of 9 years, 2 years off methadone. I was able to save my son while my husband drank. I couldn't go through it again I was getting so depressed so I left. Please dont feel guilty for wanting to be sane again. They are just as bad as the alcoholic that chooses to blame you for there drinking habit. They need help. I pray for you to be stronger than them. I am and went through the same with his sister and her family. But she is still clueless. Get happy and live again you deserve to be happy, you did not choose this life he did. God Bless You. I believe my ex. Is in his ebd stages. One last effort to save him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-84038271535938007492017-10-18T08:06:48.032-04:002017-10-18T08:06:48.032-04:00Alcohol withdrawal symptoms usually occur within 5...Alcohol withdrawal symptoms usually occur within 5 - 10 hours after the last drink, but can occur days later. Symptoms get worse in 48 - 72 hours, and may persist for weeks, depending on the original frequency of alcohol consumption. <a href="http://www.addictionrehabcenters.com/drug-addiction/alcohol-abuse-addiction/how-long-does-alcohol-stay-in-your-system/" rel="nofollow">How Long Does Alcohol Stay in <br />Your System?</a>pamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11128134885970566172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-30761967085388965622017-10-18T07:59:35.388-04:002017-10-18T07:59:35.388-04:00Alcohol is metabolized quickly by the body, requir...Alcohol is metabolized quickly by the body, requires no digestion (unlike food), and will be absorbed first. About 10% of the alcohol is expelled in the breath and urine.<a href="http://www.addictionrehabcenters.com/drug-addiction/alcohol-abuse-addiction/how-long-does-alcohol-stay-in-your-system/" rel="nofollow">How Long Does Alcohol Stay in Your System?</a><br />pamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11128134885970566172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-11169099202980196162017-09-16T09:24:01.626-04:002017-09-16T09:24:01.626-04:00I am so glad to have found this blog. My husband ...I am so glad to have found this blog. My husband is probably close if not in end stage. He's fallen 2x in the last 4 days with the last time hitting his head pretty hard. If he quits drinking for more than a few hours, he's nauseous with diarrhea. His hands shake to the point he's unable to perform tasks. My problem is that he's in denial. He thinks he has the flu. I keep trying to explain it to him calmly but he shuts down. I want to help him but don't know how. My kids are constantly being sent to their rooms so that they don't have to see the behavior. Trying to find an al anon meeting has been more difficult that I expected. I look forward to reading through more of the responses and hoping to learn how to handle the behavior better. Thank you for sharing your story. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-27874461594299204272017-08-15T10:09:49.117-04:002017-08-15T10:09:49.117-04:00My sister has been an alcoholic for over 30 years ...My sister has been an alcoholic for over 30 years she's 52 years old. She has been in and out of rehabs in and out of hospitals right now she's very thin and drinking hard liquor everyday we don't know how long we have with her. She got out of the hospital 6 days ago and is drinking hard liquor his torn our family apart.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-84465362399058613032017-05-20T11:13:05.272-04:002017-05-20T11:13:05.272-04:00I've been drinking for around 2 weeks straight...I've been drinking for around 2 weeks straight all day and night it's not fun anymore had some tomato soup and it killed me can't eat I tried to stop about a month ago and it was horrible Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-26850765627995167652017-04-22T18:08:10.459-04:002017-04-22T18:08:10.459-04:00My only problem today is the first drink and I nev...My only problem today is the first drink and I never picked up the first drink drunk. ALCOHOL IS ALWAYS THE PROBLEM IN ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS. <br /><br />Always. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03512089423117016651noreply@blogger.com