tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post5828953712663433155..comments2024-01-01T15:38:28.710-05:00Comments on The Immortal Alcoholic: Surviving the Chaos: Just tell me what you want...Linda Bartee Doynehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01820717772193440848noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-16715817917586555782012-05-03T18:24:58.776-04:002012-05-03T18:24:58.776-04:00I hate to be callous, but why didn't you kick ...I hate to be callous, but why didn't you kick him out?<br /><br />You don't have to answer. Maybe I do understand. <br /><br />You write so beautifully, I will be in line to purchase your first book, and your second, and your third....<br /><br />May you have peace and serenity. <br />With love,<br />anonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-75598241514735542112012-04-25T13:38:25.768-04:002012-04-25T13:38:25.768-04:00I'm so confused. Yes you are strong and yes I...I'm so confused. Yes you are strong and yes I believe you did the right thing, it seems your journey has reached a point of no other options other than to be there for him or not.<br /><br />This is the third post that I've read -I found you last night and plan to read and keep reading what you have written Linda. I wasn't going to comment again - I could comment to every one of your posts because your experience is such a mirror image of my own. But I am confused because of AA ramblings from the past, from our family's well intended remarks and my own feelings. Our son is not the same person he was 15 years ago- he says some crazy things-it's like living in the Twlight Zone isn't it - where down is up and up is down - I find myself shocked more by normalcy now than what happens in our insane little world. <br /><br />My doctor told me once that he read of a study that involved MRI's of alcoholics, that it has been proven that there are some alcoholics that can never quit drinking - he said "don't blame yourself, he might not be able to help himself either". I don't know if he was being kind or not - but he said again as I was leaving he said don't forget what I told you - "sometimes it's no one's fault - it just is".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-68336273380281468412012-04-20T10:23:06.974-04:002012-04-20T10:23:06.974-04:00You go girl! I wish I was as strong as you.You go girl! I wish I was as strong as you.Michele Rnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-50330177814501241572012-04-19T08:44:40.309-04:002012-04-19T08:44:40.309-04:00As hard as that might have been to do, you are aga...As hard as that might have been to do, you are again on the right path. After a reasonable amount of attempts to help some and they still don't get it, the choice you made is the only one left for you. The sooner we who are affected by the A's of the world come to the same conclusion you did the better off we all will be.<br /><br />As an example, my father got to create chaos and discord in our family for 37 years so i feel no shame, guilt or sadness in reaching the same conclusion you did a year after his ER admittence and subsequent recovery. Which lead to resumed drinking and a third total but technical first offence D.U.I. now i no longer have to call him and when he calls me my side of the conversation is limited to "uh-huh's" and "that's nice's"<br /><br />In a few months im planning on signing him up for the beer if the month club.<br /><br />Congrats Linda, detatchment is liberating. Isn't it!msterfunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08092389794217034139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-39955219757559308912012-04-19T00:23:20.671-04:002012-04-19T00:23:20.671-04:00Oh Linda! I have been reading your blog for a whil...Oh Linda! I have been reading your blog for a while now as I am in a similar position. You are such an amazing woman and thank you so much for sharing the struggle. It is such a roller coaster ride isn't it?<br /><br />I will be praying for you regularly as well as others I read about on here.<br /><br />My A has started drinking again too and I am so angry . It is so hard to understand them when they know their cirrhosis is at the end stage and yet they pick up the bottle again.<br /><br />Its the personality change that I find the hardest. The meanness etc.<br /><br />Hang in there Linda. You are amazing! I pray that you will keep strong and have a feeling of peace and experience the wisdom you need to react to each crisis.<br /><br />You give all of us strength to face another day<br /><br />A sister in the battle xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-42359825197643502792012-04-18T12:40:57.195-04:002012-04-18T12:40:57.195-04:00Good for you, Linda! Pick your battles! I really...Good for you, Linda! Pick your battles! I really don't know how you put up with him. You've got to be an angel of some sorts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-33181095051986974452012-04-18T08:00:12.829-04:002012-04-18T08:00:12.829-04:00Anonymous above says it all...Anonymous above says it all...Furtheronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11903753972242964410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-63211429981022740742012-04-17T21:41:25.472-04:002012-04-17T21:41:25.472-04:00God bless you. I don't know how you put up wit...God bless you. I don't know how you put up with it. You must be a saint. Please take care of yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-47806798656170958692012-04-17T21:13:06.317-04:002012-04-17T21:13:06.317-04:00Stay strong. You're resolve to step back is ab...Stay strong. You're resolve to step back is absolutely the right one for you, your children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. they deserve to have you in their life, and living a sane and happy life. I hope all that is not too long coming for you.<br />Best wishes.<br />ElizabethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-49628692726665054692012-04-17T19:21:00.547-04:002012-04-17T19:21:00.547-04:00Linda, I'm so sad to see you having to go thro...Linda, I'm so sad to see you having to go through this. But you did right today. Stay strong!HereticChickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05434029663521014474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-91388536217850983742012-04-17T18:22:48.015-04:002012-04-17T18:22:48.015-04:00A sad recounting today. It appears that he will ge...A sad recounting today. It appears that he will get what he wants.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-3039256780681384872012-04-17T15:41:31.299-04:002012-04-17T15:41:31.299-04:00I am so sorry You and all of us are going thru thi...I am so sorry You and all of us are going thru this hell on earth. I am so tired as you are of living this way. The psych nurse call me today and said to get ready my A is coming home. She is realizing she doesnt have to stay there. She just wants a drink real bad.Karen E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17150706964178337246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-52009173331338676352012-04-17T12:30:19.989-04:002012-04-17T12:30:19.989-04:00I am so proud of you! The Dr is correct that you a...I am so proud of you! The Dr is correct that you are a loving and special person, but he is wrong about your strength. You are amazing! You have the strength of a gladiator!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-12739471484343434002012-04-17T11:34:42.408-04:002012-04-17T11:34:42.408-04:00Stay strong, Linda. Your peace will come, I promis...Stay strong, Linda. Your peace will come, I promise you.ADDYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018958238940897902noreply@blogger.com