tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post6014258813638835331..comments2024-01-01T15:38:28.710-05:00Comments on The Immortal Alcoholic: Surviving the Chaos: Keeping reality real...Linda Bartee Doynehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01820717772193440848noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-8322277286949711412011-09-19T23:39:34.681-04:002011-09-19T23:39:34.681-04:00I feel like I am always too busy to have time for ...I feel like I am always too busy to have time for a social life. I feel like a maid on an endless hamster wheel, all the responsibilities are mine, and it seems there are just not enough hours in the day.<br /> I am embarrassed to have friends here, because it is hard to keep up with the endless beer bottles and cigarette ashes, not to mention the inappropriate things he says while trying to join a conversation. He even goes as far as dialing the numbers on my phone bill, and hanging up on them to see who I called. I feel like a trapped animal.<br /> I am going to spend the next week fixing up the basement for him to drink and smoke in. That should make my life a little easier.Colleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-79055492573167185032011-09-12T20:52:16.117-04:002011-09-12T20:52:16.117-04:00after a few more days, i reread this/. i dont thin...after a few more days, i reread this/. i dont think its possible to even find reality with them. not with mine. he just gets mad if i even try. thats why i ask yall so much...to keep some sort of reality ...jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-70667621454501262312011-09-10T17:14:12.565-04:002011-09-10T17:14:12.565-04:00I agree that you need to cultivate a life without ...I agree that you need to cultivate a life without Riley, because one day he won't physically be there either. You have already lost him mentally. I found when Greg died, life on my own carried on much the same as before as we had ceased to share life TOGETHER for the last few years.ADDYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018958238940897902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-34645856729821606152011-09-08T10:50:44.251-04:002011-09-08T10:50:44.251-04:00i find myself nodding at your words. retirement is...i find myself nodding at your words. retirement is indeed a new stage to get used to. our lives have many of these, and we always adapt. <br /><br />mine also..with the TV. it is totally real to him and he cusses out the women, repeats the news., etc. yep. and comments on the obvious. <br /><br />it is sad this has taken away their kids love and respect for them. same here. <br /><br />thanks for putting into words our lives. i am always amazed at how alike they all end up. and how if they can stand in the way, they will. every time! <br /><br />i wish mine would get past his vulgar, porno stage. argh. it gets old. <br /><br />hugs to you all.jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-34565924053109467322011-09-08T08:29:05.320-04:002011-09-08T08:29:05.320-04:00You have a great strategy regarding getting out an...You have a great strategy regarding getting out and meeting people Linda! I know that I have lost touch with way too many of my friends, mostly due to them moving away.....Kind of odd that with the exception of one or two, all of my close friends live all over the country now and talking on the phone isn't easy as I know you understand. Every time I get on the phone he talks to me, "who are you talking to, tell them I said hello, what are they doing these days?" On and on to the point when I just hand him the phone. Even though I have a decent excuse, I feel really guilty not keeping in touch. Fortunately when I do get in touch the years just fall away and it's like we spoke yesterday. I have made some wonderful friends over the years, unfortunately I can't just pick up and go to lunch or the movies with them. I know, I'm rambling here, but I think you have come up with some great ideas to get out and make friends and that's truly important as I know how my IA monopolizes all of my time not at work, and how depressing that is. I'm wishing you the best of luck on your new journey as a retired person, and I have a feeling things are going to work themselves out for you....(insurance stuff aside....that really stinks!) <br /><br />Take care of you Linda!Bethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-50265489133838013402011-09-08T07:10:46.785-04:002011-09-08T07:10:46.785-04:00It sounds like you have a good solution for the lo...It sounds like you have a good solution for the loneliness. Getting out and making friends is important, whether living with an alcoholic or not. I used to stay within the four walls except for work. It made me intensely unhappy. I formed my own prison. Not I don't have a day timer, and I have a lot of things that I enjoy doing. I am much healthier because of that.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.com