tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post6542834495123675257..comments2024-01-01T15:38:28.710-05:00Comments on The Immortal Alcoholic: Surviving the Chaos: Balancing the seesaw...Linda Bartee Doynehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01820717772193440848noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-37452241464833413292012-03-07T06:40:33.588-05:002012-03-07T06:40:33.588-05:00Whatever happens, you need to have some me-time, t...Whatever happens, you need to have some me-time, time to look after yourself and establish YOUR own sanity. Everyone else will have to fit around you, because if you go under, you'll invitably pull them down with you.ADDYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018958238940897902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-4325372301855580222012-03-06T14:46:42.336-05:002012-03-06T14:46:42.336-05:00Every day is a different one. And change happens ...Every day is a different one. And change happens in every life. I do the best that I can to not project about the future or what others want. I focus on what I am doing and what I want. At last, it feels good to not be totally living my life for the benefit of everyone else. I hope that you will find that balance in on the see saw.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-9285603139110190282012-03-06T13:42:16.574-05:002012-03-06T13:42:16.574-05:00I am SO glad that you currently have some help, ev...I am SO glad that you currently have some help, even if the underlying situation stays the same.<br /><br />About what your family expects from you...I think the advantage you have here is that they probably have no idea what to expect, either. When the day comes, you'll have the freedom to decide what sort of person you can be for the rest of the family and the Outside World. I imagine it might be frightening, but I feel like it will be liberating. Maybe there will be a learning curve, and maybe you'll find yourself falling back into "caretaker" behaviours, but at least you'll have the option to be someone different.Drymarchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09783317795440265252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-88325789667445986782012-03-06T13:30:21.882-05:002012-03-06T13:30:21.882-05:00excellent post. absolutely EXCELLENT. you put it i...excellent post. absolutely EXCELLENT. you put it in words. <br /><br />esp the inconsistency of the As. the immortals. it will drive a person crazy. today we want spaghetti. tomorrow we hate it and would never eat it. <br /><br />i will use this. the seesaw. and how it always tilts..some days this way...some days that way. and there we are in the middle, just trying to not fall. <br /><br />thanks again linda, for sharing this. i relate. <br /><br />the prob is our lives and sanity are based on consistency. its how we know who to say hi to and who not to. what tv shows we like...what kind of pie. what clothes to wear if its cold out. <br /><br />but with our immortals...this is all taken away. we have no balance point to use. what works today wont tomorrow. cant do it one day at a time with this. <br /><br />your blog is and will be invaluable to me and others as time goes on. i would love to hear any solutions you have come up with to help you cope with this.jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-13687232167212651572012-03-06T13:23:18.414-05:002012-03-06T13:23:18.414-05:00Remember, one day at a time.Remember, one day at a time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com