tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post6740807367845557772..comments2024-01-01T15:38:28.710-05:00Comments on The Immortal Alcoholic: Surviving the Chaos: Sacrifices...Linda Bartee Doynehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01820717772193440848noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-57025484586198095182014-10-11T01:10:31.576-04:002014-10-11T01:10:31.576-04:00I didn't get that feeling at all. I think unti...I didn't get that feeling at all. I think until you've gone through the caretaking of an end stage alcoholic, you have no idea how terrifying and frustrating it can be. tieropasvmiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09419278959572899447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-34990926288484987382014-09-02T20:35:48.855-04:002014-09-02T20:35:48.855-04:00Again, this is a disease. You seem like a bitter o...Again, this is a disease. You seem like a bitter old lady.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-1155327733893138262011-08-04T17:03:39.273-04:002011-08-04T17:03:39.273-04:00I'm having trouble coping with my end-stage al...I'm having trouble coping with my end-stage alcoholic bloke...ex-partner who for some reason I still care about. After spending a few days away looking after my demanding mother ( !! ) I come back to find him needing a bath, shave, food etc. He then falls asleep.... I go home despite his pleas...trying to attain this elusive detachment. <br />This morning in the post I receive a letter from his dad ( I kid you not! ) telling me that he'd only fallen asleep because he was so relieved to see me...hadn't slept while I was away...and now we've 'fallen out' he's looking even more gaunt etc. etc. <br /><br />HELP!Loobyloonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-69063055658191615652011-08-03T17:50:20.492-04:002011-08-03T17:50:20.492-04:00I made the mistake of going on medical healing wel...I made the mistake of going on medical healing well forum site.. to see if I can get more info on what to expect with end stage alcoholism. This was a forum about liver disease due to hepatitis and alcoholism...got lampooned about supplying an alcoholic alcohol..whoa that was a mistake..they just dont get it.Karen E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17150706964178337246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-856695116084838102011-08-03T13:51:28.693-04:002011-08-03T13:51:28.693-04:00Linda,
You hit so many nails on the head I c...Linda, <br /> You hit so many nails on the head I could have a whole new house! Thanks, once again. I've learned too: You must let them crawl. You must simply smile and thank your neighbors. You must sleep. You must go out. <br /> You will be healthier and kinder and strong enough to face another week, or month, or year of caregiving if you can detach.Rachel Lorene "Lori" Johnstone Pohlmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786712630349705055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-20511023519718406392011-07-31T09:25:40.108-04:002011-07-31T09:25:40.108-04:00Linda,
Because you already have a 'platform...Linda,<br />Because you already have a 'platform' - through this blog - the book would sell itself. You don't need the publicity (quite limited usually, anyway for a first-time author) of a traditional publisher. I don't know the particulars of 'outskirts' but I know others who have been very happy with their self-published route. Good luck with the project. (keep the price low by going paperback and/or ebook).<br /><br />You're an excellent writer!Gabriele Goldstonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04481625919437738131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-23423246226521219372011-07-30T16:02:02.991-04:002011-07-30T16:02:02.991-04:00Gabriele -- Yes -- so sad about Amy Winehouse. She...Gabriele -- Yes -- so sad about Amy Winehouse. She was attempting to self detox. Alcoholics should not attempt to detox without consulting with a medical professional first. It's not just as simple as just not drinking anymore. <br /><br />And -- I've been considering self-publishing thru OutSkirts. Any advice you may have is greatly appreciated. -- LindaLindahttp://www.immortalalcoholic.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-76838345262697179562011-07-30T12:49:38.447-04:002011-07-30T12:49:38.447-04:00Detaching. Yes, it's a constant battle. Someti...Detaching. Yes, it's a constant battle. Sometimes I think it's turned me into a cold, hard bitch. But it's all about survival.<br /><br />Just love your 'voice'! Good luck finding an agent. As a published author, I know it's hard, but you have a great topic.<br /><br />Did you hear that Amy Winehouse died of alcohol withdrawal? Alcohol kills all ways. Sad.Gabriele Goldstonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04481625919437738131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-57159797773338673492011-07-30T12:35:58.066-04:002011-07-30T12:35:58.066-04:00Boy, did I need to read this post. I thought he wa...Boy, did I need to read this post. I thought he was calling me in the middle of the night because I am special. Ha, special that I was the only one the would answer the phone! <br /><br />Googled him yesterday to make sure there wasn't an obituary yet. Kind of creepy but made me feel better.3catshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17033009281181530169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-7236176469392469812011-07-28T14:50:36.219-04:002011-07-28T14:50:36.219-04:00Oh Linda, once again, you hit the nail right smack...Oh Linda, once again, you hit the nail right smack on the head. Detach, detach, detach.....It's not about not caring, it's about self preservation!Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09819652854094841479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-8481016819095448832011-07-28T12:41:45.959-04:002011-07-28T12:41:45.959-04:00Addy -- Detachment is an extremely difficult thing...Addy -- Detachment is an extremely difficult thing to do. It's so against our basic beliefs. It wasn't that you were weak.<br /><br />Karen -- You are so definitely NOT alone and I'm so glad you HEARD what I was saying.<br /><br />The book will be done before the holidays. Just have to find an agent and/or publisher.<br /><br />LindaLindahttp://www.immortalalcoholic.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-19506794918807622472011-07-28T12:18:08.087-04:002011-07-28T12:18:08.087-04:00Read the first half of blog and said to myself..oh...Read the first half of blog and said to myself..oh..I wouldnt have made that call..let him wake up in the yard..the second half I said to myself..ohhh your right... I have to get stronger..say no and take care of myself first! YOU are so right..THANKS again for a 'wake up" call!..love this site..I am NOT alone in this struggle..I am NOT crazy for taking on this end stage care giving task..I just need to take care of ME! and listen to YOU. on a side note is it "normal" for end stage to vomit most every morning..then okay the rest of the day..seems so strange..guessing it has seomthing to do with the liver function or less function.still wish there was a what to expect when your caregiveing for an end stage alcoholic book!Karen E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17150706964178337246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-29733973957552499852011-07-28T12:15:34.363-04:002011-07-28T12:15:34.363-04:00So true. I enabled Greg to be an alcoholic, as I r...So true. I enabled Greg to be an alcoholic, as I ran around him buying supplies and making excuses for him. I did not like it, but I did not have the strength to detach.ADDYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018958238940897902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6759421079279172044.post-42948263294589655402011-07-28T08:21:52.771-04:002011-07-28T08:21:52.771-04:00I would have to leave or ask them to leave. I coul...I would have to leave or ask them to leave. I could not live with active drinking and the chaos it brings. Knocking on the door at night?? No way. I have compassion but there is a limit to what I am willing to do. I don't wish to clean up alcoholic messes anymore or live in that kind of chaos.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.com