I’ve been in
There were four subjects who consented to have their lives
filmed over a course of time.
Kenzie is a young professional who manages to keep her life
in order during the work week and then “lets go” on the weekend. What starts
out as fun and games always seems to end up with tears and apologies.
Mike moves to St. Thomas , Virgin Islands , to start a new career and a new life. His
teenage son comes to visit him and ends up “taking care” of his father. After
the boy returns home, Mike attempts to reconcile with his wife, but the attempt
ends in disaster.
Rhonda uses alcohol as a coping mechanism and participates
in a weekly happy hour with three other women. One of the women, Noel, a
divorced mother of two, uses wine to escape her negative feeling. Noel begins
to lose her ability to control her drinking.
Neal, a father of two grown children, is at the end-stages
of alcoholism. He struggles to function but seems unable to stop his
self-destructive behavior. His second wife, Kathy, finds herself attending to
him as she would a child.
I was surprised and almost felt a bit guilty as parts of the
film made me break out in laughter. It wasn’t really that I thought what was
happening was funny. It was that it was so absurd that it was comical. I wanted
to yell out to the screen – “Are you KIDDING me??” It was the same reaction I
had when observing any drunken person trying to give a sound reasonable
explanation for why they are drinking; why it’s OK for them to drive; why their
children’s needs aren’t really that important; or any other thing that they
needed to explain.
There was no laughter as the film showed Neal in his various
states of drunkenness. There was a segment where Neal had been admitted to the
hospital for detox. The scenes of him interacting with his grandson were
touching and would seem to be a very important reason for Neal to stop
drinking. But he does not. His wife, Kathy, is frustrated and ready to divorce
him.
This film is a must-see for anyone who believes they may be drinking
more than they should. If you can see yourself in any of the four scenarios, it
would indicate that it’s time to get some help.
Another aspect to this film that I don’t believe the
producers planned for is the behavior and actions of the people who were not
the subjects. It was a side effect that needed to be shown. In fact, the
subject of the silent collateral damage left in the wake of alcoholism deserves
a film all on its own.
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