Those of you who post comments need to know that I READ each
and every one. I post every one of them even if the comment is derogatory to my
blog, my platform, and me personally. I do not respond to every comment but I
DO read them. So here’s the deal… before I post the comment it is read and “moderated”.
Which simply means I have the power to refuse to post comments that do not fit
my criteria.
My criteria are simple. I only post comments that are
directly related to the subject matter in my blog. I DO NOT post comments with
contact information for individuals, companies, rehab centers, or ANYONE else. I
DO NOT post comments that contain LINKS to other websites unless it relates to
the subject matter in a post. But… that’s rare.
If you have a comment that is
really a link to an escort service, miracle doctor, or your Great Aunt Molly’s
whatever…. That comment will NEVER make it to the home page of my blog. It will
be marked as spam and then deleted from my in box.
When a person or company contacts me and wants to
collaborate on promoting something – no matter what it is – I do a lot of
research. I make sure that the content will be relevant to the majority of my readers.
I won’t waste your time, or mine, reading something that will encourage you to
spend money needlessly, join a cult, pimp out your grandmother, or any other
such ridiculous thing.
While it may appear that posting on my blog is a form of
advertising, I will only “advertise” as a means of providing information. It’s
a way of saying… “Hey… you might want to check this out.” I’m not telling you
to go to a certain rehab center or purchase a certain product. I’m telling you
it’s there, available, and I’ve researched it to be something viable to my
readers.
I’ve been getting a lot of comments lately that link
directly to an escort service. I have to say to them… nice try but take your
business elsewhere. But, while we are on the subject, let’s talk about escort
services and their “services”.
I understand that being involved with an alcoholic can be
lonely. Sex is almost unimaginable, and the emotional closeness can be
non-existent. But hiring out (or in) can result in an increase of the lonely emptiness
that you’re trying to resolve. Physical gratification is pleasant but that’s
all it is and having another human in the mix can get complicated – and expensive.
My suggestion is to take advantage of the electronic age and
find yourself a device that will satisfy your needs. Find human contact and
closeness in the people that you already care about and care about you. If you
need a hug – ask for it from someone who knows you personally.
If you find yourself in a situation of becoming involved
with another person, don’t shy away from it. Explore it. Think about it. Be
careful. But don’t deny yourself happiness. This is NOT what you will get from
a pay-for-sex arrangement.
Staying in a marriage/partnership with an alcoholic may be
what’s best for you financially or for other reasons. Don’t forget that you are
a real person with real feelings who deserves someone who can make you feel
loved, desirable, and cared for. So go for it – if it doesn’t complicate your
life more than you can manage. Just DON’T pay for any of it with cash – pay for
it with giving your heart.
I couldn't agree more! Happy Christmas by the way.
ReplyDeleteHow does the non-alcoholic female in a long-term relationship with a chronic male alcoholic who totally resists medical help for what appears to be end stage renal failure allow the police to remove the alcoholic from her home to a homeless shelter because of her fear of watching him die live with herself for what she has done?
ReplyDeleteHow do I live with myself? I am the nonalcoholic female partner of a 70-year-old male alcoholic with whom I've been involved with in one form or another for 36 years. During the past two weeks, I have arisen each day worried and relieved not to find him dead on my living room couch. He's practically lived on my living room couch for the last two weeks.
ReplyDeleteHe's barely eaten or ingested fluids and nothing is coming out of him. His ankles and feet are so swollen he can barely wear shoes. He has COPD and still smokes cigarettes. He won't see a doctor. I feel his liver and kidneys are shutting down and know he could be nearing the end of his journey. I called a hospital this morning for advice and was advised to call emergency services. I did, but because he refused medical care, the emergency team was unable to take him for medical care and called the police. A very kind police officer took him with him to the nearest homeless shelter, where he has primarily resided for the past four years. Have I denied him a respectable end? Have I been cruel when I could have been more kind?