Thursday, March 24, 2016
What! No family program?
I want to vent a little bit today. Just a little bit, I promise.
I received a very pleasant e-mail from a person who represents a drug and alcohol rehab center. The nice lady on the phone said they wanted to see if possibly they could be a guest poster on this blog.
I checked out their website and I loved the concept of their program. It was not your run of the mill rehab where the client is showered with lots of AA and then sent on their way. They have a very viable alternative to the standard rehab center. I commend them for that. Can you guess what my one big objection might be?
Where’s the family program? There are all these wonderfully inventive things for the addicted person, but I saw absolutely nothing for the family. I was disappointed because I thought they could have used that creativity to expand their current programs to those who have been left in the peripheral damage zone of the addicted person.
I brought this issue up to the lady on the phone and she said she would discuss it with the owner of the facility and get back to me. I won’t sit by the phone and wait for what probably will not happen.
What I had hoped to hear from the person representing the rehab facility was on offer to truly join forces. I thought maybe they wanted to start a family program but didn’t want it to be housed at one of their current facilities. I wouldn’t be opposed to having them partner with Linda’s Place and be under their umbrella of facilities. I would be open to suggestions about reciprocal arrangements. It would be like them offering a family program but it just wouldn’t be at their location.
I get it. Addicted persons need help. Without rehab centers for the abuser, the chance of them recovering is very small. I understand the importance. What I don’t understand is why most rehab centers are ignoring a vital part in the recovery process. Rehab centers can detox a drunk, get him started on a program, and then release him to go back to the same house with the same family and the same dysfunction but they expect a different result.
Remind me again --- what is the definition of crazy? Oh yeah – doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. It’s like buying a cake mix in a box. You open it and find there are only half the dry ingredients that are needed for making a whole cake. You can do the math, improvise, make only half a cake, but you paid for a whole cake.
It’s not that I adhere to the notion that the role of the family is to keep the alcoholic sober or at least change their own traits so that the alcoholic can stay sober. In my opinion, the family needs to survive just as much as the alcoholic. They need to have a life of their own and happiness without involvement of the addicted person. They deserve happiness, knowledge, and a future. The alcoholic must own his own addiction. The family must find a way of living without having alcoholism control their lives.
If you are a rehab facility and would like to help me create a recovery center for families, contact me. Maybe we can work together to make it happen. But, please don’t ask me to provide a guest blog post for a facility that doesn’t think the family is valuable enough to be worth their time.
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